Dear Bups,

Y’All remember a few months ago, when all that drama went down for Fantasia? A friend shared his POV with me and few other chicks dating.I thought it  was worth sharing his messaging,  as of recent … this situation hit close to home. 

For those of you on the DATING scene,

Comment about Fantasia Barrino;  Coming in contact with divorced/separated/married men…

As you move forward in your personal relationships as well as professional careers, take note.  I just heard about my “bitter/sweet” singer and what has come out into the light.  It’s not the fact that she got involved with this person, but rather it was HIM NOT “manning-up” in being transparent, clear with good intent, and lack of self-awareness.

Men that are “going through” a separation/divorce…YOU need to ask, trust but verify, ALL the right questions that you are entitled to know as a woman.  Men will and can DENY many things to make a “moment” right.  If they say they are separated, you need to find-out if they, have started a legitimate LEGAL SEPARATION process…many men can have a falling-out with their spouses and they decide to pull apart for a few months to sort things out, well in the temporary separation, guess what, YOU could be the victim of deceit.  Just be aware.

As a man, having gone through this situation myself, ONE needs to have back-bone, to CONFRONT, DEAL WITH, ADJUST and ACCEPT certain realities. There is a process, the first step is to WORK on YOUR INNER-SELF, MAKE a DECISION and SEEK MEDIATION/COUNSEL and move-forward. Remember the TRUTH will set you FREE!

Remember do not ever allow a man to have too much power over you.

Peace and Love!