"Can I borrow $5 dollars?"

Today’s hot topics include dating women who make more than you. Heck in today’s recession a lot of women have been in work, while their spouses have been out of work. I think that for Black men, they can go head claiming that they are not cool with this. It’s just not feasible and history doesn’t support that fact. I think looking at all men it may be a bigger problem than it needs to be.

Personally, I do not mind dating a woman who makes more than me. (Yes, Dr. J does not mind dating a woman who makes more than him.) I have in the past dated women who made more than me and I think as long as you’re dating a mature individual you will be okay. I rent, but I’ve dated a homeowner before, that’s cool. In my humble opinion you should probably try and date out of your league if you can. I mean, why would you hang out with turkeys when you can fly with eagles?

I think relationships shouldn’t rely on money. I dated a girl who made more than me and yes she picked up dinner more times than me. I recall one time we went to dinner and I went to pick up the bill and she said, “Jason be serious, that just doesn’t make sense.” She didn’t throw it in my face, but she let me know, I am doing well for myself, it’s just downright ignorant for me to have you dropping your card on the table and trying to budget this dinner, when to me, it’s nothing. On the same token, we actually never discussed money, rather career decisions and where would like to go in our career.

Lest I get too far along, I think it should be said that some women know how to deal with this and others don’t. I think the hesitation with dating a woman who makes more than you is that in the heat of battle no man wants to be told that his woman makes more than him. I tried to think if I would ever say that to a woman and I don’t think I would, but I’ve heard several women say that to their men or about their men to their friends, as if it was cool. Those women are the reason why men won’t date a woman who makes more than them.

However, I’m willing to date a woman who makes more than me, and I’m wondering if the buppies feel the same way. To the men, do you mind? If you do, what causes your hesitation? To the women, what have been some of your experiences with dating a guy who made less than you? Welcome to the new site. I really like the new look and feel I hope you guys do too. And I hope to speak to you guys here more often now.